There are many people who have no problems whatsoever being judgmental about sex. It was not that long ago that sexual acts between consenting adults of the same sex were illegal in most places. That is probably still true in some places. It is certainly true under the Uniform Code of Military Justice. Most places, however, laws against homosexual acts have been repealed, found unconstitutional (somehow), or simply are never enforced.

This is a matter of great consternation to many people. They believe that their holy book requires them to consider any homosexual act an abomination and a threat to society as a whole. I think that if such people choose to believe that homosexuality is a revolting sin, then they should go right ahead and believe that. I have no desire to dictate to them what is holy, and what is unholy. I even agree that if their religion prohibits same-sex marriage, then their church should neither conduct nor sanction such unions. 

If, on the other hand, two persons of the same sex wish to publicly proclaim their lifelong commitment to one another, they should have the right to bind themselves one to the other in a ceremony and a legal contract as binding as traditional marriage . Civil matters and religious matters should not mix. Same-sex couples should be able to obtain a license for a civil union that is just as legal and binding as any marriage license. These same-sex unions also should provide the same advantages and disadvantages as church-sanctioned matrimonial unions.